My first kid found out today. I went to pick her up from class, and she asked, right there in the classroom. I said no, but she persisted, so I gave her a look and asked her to hush until we were outside. She did not, and asked twice more before I got her into the hall. A couple of kids were passing by in the hall and again she asked me, "Do you have cancer?". I said, firmly this time, "Please stop talking about it in the hallway; we can talk about it as soon as we get to my office". She gave me a look then, like she was starting to understand, and she didn't say anything until we got to my office.
There I told her, "Yes, it is a wig, and yes, I do
have cancer". She wanted to know if I lost my hair already, wanted to
see it, said the wig looked weird on me because I never wear my hair
down (and she likes it better when I have a ponytail, because I look
She asked if the baby was okay, and if the baby would have
cancer. I explained that the baby wasn't going to be affected at all,
that the treatments I would have before the baby comes are all safe for
the baby. She wanted to know if I'd be at school next year, and I said
yes. And then, apparently satisfied, she wanted to show me a video on her phone.
after she left the office, I asked my coworker if the wig looked like a
wig or if it was crooked or what. She said no, and we've decided my
student is just more observant than most people. I asked her to pretty
please tell me if ever the wig is crooked or looks weird, because I
think that would be more embarrassing than just going bald.
kind of looking forward to my kids all knowing so that I can just wear a
cap or scarf. This wig, while I think it does look natural enough,
isn't very comfortable and it's always in my face. I so often wore a
ponytail in the past because I don't like my hair in my face at all--and
while the wig is long enough to pull back, it doesn't look natural when
I do. It gets a little Deep South Big Hair on me when I do that. I
think we'll all agree that I can't pull off that look.